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45775 Re: Hoping ALL of you had a great day today/Zim,De, Nemo, all
   My BEST thoughts and wished Big brudda!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 		capt_nemo   POPE 5   30 Nov 2019
 3:10 AM
45772 Re: Hoping ALL of you had a great day today/Zim,De, Nemo, all
   Our Prayers be with you and your Dad, Boss. Zim. 		Zimbler0   POPE 5   30 Nov 2019
 2:17 AM
45750 Re: Hoping ALL of you had a great day today/Zim,De, Nemo, all
   Decomposed  		 POPE 5   29 Nov 2019
 7:02 PM

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Re: Hoping ALL of you had a great day today/Zim,De, Nemo, all

By: micro in POPE 5
Fri, 29 Nov 19 2:37 PM
Msg. 45748 of 62138
(This msg. is a reply to 45708 by Zimbler0)
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Good Black Friday to you all.

After having some discussions at Camp Micro regarding your ideas of a hospital bed that lowers way down low, and Mr. Zim's idea of some rubber foam pipe insulation on the bed rails, (which is the onlything I can imagine is what he banged his head on, we have come to some conclusions.

De, My dad is almost 91 and in final stage of Alzheimers/dementia. He cannot remember anything and he has no balance or leg strength and cannot walk, so I purchased a good wheel chair for him and he aids move him around in that.
Unfortunately, he does not remember he cannot get up out of bed and stand up or walk. And LAW prohibits the facility from putting up side rails or using straps to keep him in bed.....

His pacemaker battery is going to stop sometime soon as well. When that happens he will die in his sleep peacefully. His heart will simply stop beating. If the alzheimers does not kill him first...

It's a tough situation to be in having to decide how to end your father's life. It's a toll that is always on your mind and at same time I felt so bad for him yesterday as I knew he was in pain and hurting... and could do almost nothing for him...

He is totally dependent upon others for pretty much everything....
No Quality of Life as we define it, but then, I wonder, who is in charge of what Life should be?

I believe wee will pursue a bed that is motorized and lowers to floor so the nurses and aids can put him to bed at night and then lower the bed down.

It seems the safest way to keep him from getting up on his own and trying to stand up and walk.

I do not know that he will be alive at New Year's Day.
Only God knows.
I do hope that he dies peacefully and goes on to be with mom. He called her by name a few days ago and wondered where she was. First time he has done that since she passed four years ago....

I feel so horrible for him.... Of course, I get zero help from three other siblings with my dad. They all tell me what a great job I am doing, but never come to help, see him, or do anything.

and yet, they will all have their hands out when I have to dispose and disribute of his assets.


I know what they ought to get. Don't know that legally I can do it or have any peace in the family afterward...

A troubling few days ahead.

I think I can RENT a bed by the month which would likely be best. for a few months it makes the most sense and I do not have to try to dispose of it..

Of to see my wife and sister in law for the day's plans,

Appreciate you all very much.... Heavy heart.

my best,

micro...