Good Evening ZZ!
Apparently you believe that when you "lose" an election you have "lost".
Not true.
Obviously democracy can not make everybody a "winner" on any given issue.
You live in a society and you conform to societal norms.
When the norms are established through democracy, the results are at least palatable.
If they are not palatable?
You take arms against a sea of troubles and by opposing end them. I suppose.
Democracy does not guarantee happiness.
Our democracy is predicated upon life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
The pursuit is through the democratic process.