With the population of our family increasing with the arrival of each new grandchild, our ability to accommodate everybody was shrinking. So we added a couple of rooms that really have served us well in some memorable family get-togethers. But we had to correct one thing. As we looked at the staircase that a lot of little legs (like mine) would be climbing, we didn't like the sharp edges we saw on one of the boards that was along and at the top of the staircase. We had to take care of those before someone got hurt on them.
Needless to say, we rounded off those sharp edges because people we love could get hurt on them. The problem is that too many of us have sharp edges we never deal with; edges that continue to hurt people we care about. It's those sharp edges in our personality, in the way we react to people, in the way we treat people sometimes, in the way we act when we're tired or stressed. And you can't just let those sharp edges stay there. They've already done enough damage, haven't they?
Maybe you get sharp and hurtful when you're tired, or when you're interrupted, or when something or someone messes up the way you had it planned. It could be you become cutting and harsh when you're really stressed, or frustrated, or when you don't get your way.
I know where my buttons are that bring out my worst. I suspect you know where yours are, too. But for the sake of those we love, isn't it time we really finally did something about the sharp edges that keep cutting them?
Philippians 4:5 says,
"Let your gentleness be evident to all."
Well, is it? Would folks who know you best call you gentle? Or are they getting verbally roughed up by you all too often? Colossians 3 describes the new you that's supposed to be the result of you knowing Jesus personally. It says, "As God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience."
That's the personality wardrobe that folks should always see you in, because you look good in it.
Sometimes you may not realize the power of your words; power to heal, power to wound, to build up, to tear down, to make a person feel valuable or worthless. In fact, Proverbs 18:21 says,
"the tongue has the power of life and death.
" With the words you say, you can make someone either feel dead or alive inside. And listen to what God says our sharp edges can do: "Reckless words pierce like a sword"
(Proverbs 12:1
. We know that's true. We've been pierced with that sword many times ourselves haven't we? Then why must we continually wound, alienate and wither the people we care about with our sharp edges?
Gentle treatment of people - especially when we're feeling tired, or tense, or frustrated - doesn't necessarily come naturally. God describes it as a "fruit of the Spirit" (Galatians 5:23). It's a characteristic Jesus has that He can produce in you through His Holy Spirit who lives in you. But you have to reach the point where, first of all, you're willing to see those sharp edges that you have[b/] and repent of them as part of the sinful old you that's all dark and ugly. [b]And tell the Lord you're powerless to change your dark side by yourself.
Surrender that harsh side of you to God's Holy Spirit to replace it with the loving gentleness of your Lord, Jesus. Go back to those you've hurt and tell them you're sorry. Ask them to pray for you as you try to change. And when you're in one of those times when the sharp edges are coming out, stop for a moment and exchange your feelings and your instincts and your history for His empowering, overlooking love.
There are too many wounds, too many tears from the damage our sharp edges have inflicted already. But because of Jesus, you just don't have to be that way anymore!
Friends, let me be first to admit that I also am guilty of sharp edges and sometimes a sharp tongue. The Apostle Paul refers to these times as "being in the flesh", which is when we react to something not by saying or doing what Christ would DO or has TAUGHT US in HIS WORD to do, but taking matters into our own hands and judgment, which of course we ALL think is superior to everyone else... I am guilty as charged of this same thing... Besides, only JESUS is the Righteous Judge of Everything, not us.
How do we correct this as best we can???
Here are some suggestions.
1. PRAY OFTEN. Multiple times daily even in your car if you are just driving someplace. I do this a LOT because I NEED TO.
2. ASK Jesus to forgive you of your sinful fleshly human reaction and to allow The Holy Spirit to control your thoughts and your mouth before saying anything or simply say nothing..
3. Take a time out before reacting to anything someone else has said and done that has really angered or upset you.. Ask Jesus to forgive them for you. Ask Jesus to forgive yourself for ANYTHING you may have said that could have been motivation for that person to make you feel small and belittled..
4. Ask Jesus to help you to genuinely forgive that
person for you and to forgive you as well. Ask HIM to help you to love that person as a brother or sister in Christ. Remember that JESUS died for THEM and thier sins as much as HE died for YOU and Your sins.. He loves them as much as He loves you!
When you see yourself and your own faults, it becomes harder to point out and be offended by the faults of someone else...
May the Lord Bless you as we seek to become MORE like HIM and less like the sinners that we are.....
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